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I dont work at weddings, but is a given that the more expensive the wedding is, the shorter the marriage might be.
A big huge expensive wedding is a outbox stress, a vanity display and usually the bride is one of those who want the dream perfect wedding they wanted since she was a child.
Then comes the hyper fixation with aesthetics, that might translate into controlling and micro managing everyone on the wedding party and pushing people away for not matching it.
In the end, nothing about the wedding is about the love, being together, etc. It is just a huge waste of money just for some perfectly curated pictures. The marriage itself is no longer relevant and the couple might not last more than 2 years. Just keep it simple people, or even better, just elope.
There is definitely statistical proof of this. But I would state it as a percentage of income. I have been to lavish weddings that were not an economic inconvenience for the couple.
Yeah, possibly the most expensive wedding I've been to was one where they (rather, the parents) could afford it. And it was lovely
it was first and foremost a party for friends. No dress code, great food, and the only "micromanaging" by bride and groom was to make sure guests were enjoying themselves/remind us that the bar was open. Vows weren't even a part of the wedding (small, family-only).