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As a parent of two kids on the spectrum my messaging has been just this with a resounding "there are legions of autistic people that are NOT represented. Ever."
Every representation of autistic people you see in the media, or chatting with online are the exception and the fact that they collectively shit on the fact that there are many isolated and struggling is goddamn frustrating.
If you're autistic and on Lemmy I'm proud of you. My youngest son can't manage his own diabetes, can't wipe his ass, needs help showering, has worsening anxiety and ADHD. I could go on.
As a parent I'm supposed to defer to that representation in the media or on Lemmy because "they're autistic bro." disgusts me.
My final takeaway. Fuck the DSM V for making Asperger's the same as Autism. It isn't. It hurts both parties but I'd argue it hurts Autistic people far more than Asperger's people.
Thanks for sharing your experience. It sounds like you have your hands full and as a parent I can only empathize. I totally hear you about media representation missing the mark. We have some roadway to make. I'm surprised how many parent friends we have that are relatively clueless (even though I must admit, until this January when we got the diagnosis I was too).
My little one started group therapy about two months ago and I'm super grateful even though the journey ahead is still quite long.
On the Asperger's topic: I was under the impression Asperger's is no longer in use as a diagnosis and was folded into the ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder). At least that's what we learned this year throughout the diagnosis process.
Stay strong brother (or sister)!
As part of your research are you speaking with autistic adults?
I have not yet. I would like to though