As soon as you leave high school, if not before, you should be your own person. Blaming others for things you want to do isn't healthy and shouldn't be used as an excuse.
this post was submitted on 26 Aug 2023
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Depending on what OP wants to wear and where they live it could be dangerous.
You're right. And yet people still do it. Hence this post.
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ITT: People who want to cross-dress and relive their childhood. I heartily approve of all of it.
Farting in public. My friends got the view that it's only a natural thing to do, so when we're together we just do it without judging each other. The majority of people don't think like it, i guess most find it digusting or take it as a reason to mock you. I don't understand how we ended up like that. Guess humanity still has to grow up a little more :D
I used to find it funny and do it around friends/family, but more recently the smell has been far more disgusting to me and I have to put on an N95 or leave the room. It's unfortunate that I have a lost a source of such jollity and mirth.
This is a good one, but I think it's not all shame. Concealing farts in public is a game of skill. You must consider how to position your body so that no sound is made. How quiet is the area you're in? Are there others around who could conceal the true farter? Are you able to discreetly move to another location so that by the time the smell arrives you're no longer a suspect?
You also take into account your last eaten foods and recent farts and how they may result in large smell or sometimes no smell. It's a big game of strategy and execution to be a covert farter.
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Anything criminal.
Really don't need to be judged for that stuff.
Nothing. I truly do not give a fuck anymore.
The key is to accept there will be social consequences and to ignore them. Once people see the consequences they impose do not affect you, especially after they escalate which they will do at first, they'll stop and accept your behavior.
Getting onto HRPT. I'd need to get to a field with unobstructed view of sky. Now imagine walking through the city with an 80cm satellite dish.
People stare weirdly even if I am just standing in middle of soccer field for 15 minutes with a V-Dipole to receive APT/LRPT.
Speaking of APT, theoretically I have beautiful pass of NOAA-18 in a little over an hour. (Edit: Got that one: https://lemmy.sdf.org/post/2767357)
Hmmm...
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Crime, I don't like being judged as guilty.
Function.
But it's not so much the fear of judgement, but the fear of the absurdly unjust punishment people will level on me for even the most innocuous action, because they just love abusing people.
Where do I start with this one? I have so much to circumventing I would have to do if I want to be myself, and that's not really anyone's fault either (so nothing with a solution). The last thing you mentioned is a fairly good example, I'm locked in certain aesthetics. I can't unpack myself in someone's presence much of the time. I can't communicate without fear of messing up. I can't hypothetically hone certain things I arguably should've honed. I could list these things. I do try going against this pattern and only a few things worked out.
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Are we including juries?
I mean, generally I donβt let that stop me from doing what I want to do.
But I drink a lot, so thatβs probably why I donβt care as much.
Don't worry about what people think about you. They're too worried about what you think about them.