Asklemmy

It’s completely understandable to respond that way towards people who are dismissing or attacking a fundamental part of who you are.

At the same time it’s important to note they are a small sample size of their religious/ethnic/national background. Each of those groups is probably so large as to contain every kind of person from saints to bigots, which is why hating a group that large is fundamentally irrational.

Honor your own feelings, don’t make excuses for their bigotry, but remember that they like any of us are just small parts of the groups they belong to.

People tend to sweat when they need something. So your next step is to create a necessity.

get new friends or develop thicker skin,

It's a modified Mad Men meme. Michael "I feel bad for you." Don Draper "I don't think about you at all."

You hate them for what you think they are thinking about you. When in all reality they probably don't think about you at all.

Unless they've directly attacked you or bullied or directed slurs at you, but that's usually just 1 or 2 assholes, not a whole company of people.

It's impossible to be bigoted against bigots.

Its human nature to be racist look at our history. We made african americans do slavery before lincoln was in office. We still haven't gotten over the whole racism as its still around on the internet no matter where you look could be jokes could be crimes it is just there. We as humans want to be more powerful than other humans hence the racism and bullying. However there will always be people who are against racism which happen to be the correct minded people. To be honest my brother makes racist jokes all the time but limits it to our private discord.

The best thing to do is to hold in your thoughts dont be mean to people is all I have to say.