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If you unironically use "time blindness" as an excuse for always being late, you are a complete moron.
It's a terrible excuse. I'm almost always on time cause I use my calendar instead of my brain to manage time. The "time blindness" just makes me feel anxious about being late despite being 5 mins away and having 30 mins to spare.
I obsess over time and im always exactly 15mins early wherever i go.
Why? Not that i use that as an excuse. But why would that make you a moron?
Because being horrible with time is a predictable thing. As a human being, we have the ability to plan and act in ways that compensate for predictable weaknesses.
If you notice you're always late, but you never try to leave earlier, you're either a moron or an asshole.
It seems like you don't understand the point of time blindness then. How do you "leave earlier" when you completely lose track of time?
Hell, even for work meetings, I have to have the most obnoxiously loud and annoying notification alert on my work computer that can be heard throughout the entire house, and I still end up late to some meetings, even though I'm already sitting at my desk.
Your post is like complaining that a blind person just needs to open their eyes if they want to see, or they're just a moron or an asshole. It shows profound ignorance about the subject and complete lack of empathy for people who have a problem that you don't have direct experience with.
It strikes me that your belief that someone is a moron or an asshole if they fail to leave earlier might be coming from a place of not understanding ADHD. You say "as a human being" which drastically oversimplifies and understates the irratic nature of the mind of someone suffering with the condition.
As someone who has ADHD, i believe i can say, with a fairly high degree of confidence, that you do not suffer with the condition. Or that if you do, you have found a good coping mechanism for issues with timekeeping. Or at the very least timekeeping is not one of the aspects of ADHD that affects you.
But to call someone an asshole or a moron because you dont understand how their mind works and you seem to think what works for one, works for all, is the most moronic and asshole-like thing that you can do.
I put it to you, that you have no idea what you are talking about, and despite the fact that alot of people mistake normal aspects of various personalities with full blown ADHD, and thusly self diagnose, in error, that your opinion on the simplicity of changing ones behaviour on a dime has no place on an ADHD forum.
I see. So you'd rather write multiple paragraphs of excuses instead of spending that time on coping with what you can.
I understand how this sub works now, and I'm disappointed. Bye.
Please locate the multiple excuses i used in those "paragraphs" and let me know where they are. Anyone reading what i wrote will see that i simply stated you dont understand ADHD and since you haven't rebutted that assertion its fairly safe to assume i was right. You dont have it and you dont understand it.
As for your goodbye? Good riddance.
Tell me you don't understand what time blindness is without telling me you don't understand what time blindess is.
This is just like saying "stop using your lack of legs as an excuse for not running", consider not being ableist.
I have severe time blindness. I'm either right on time or a few minutes before. I rely on the various scales of time available to me. Edit: to say I'm speaking exclusively to "time blindness". Someone with full blown ADHD may have other factors interfering with their ability to utilize these tools of time measurement/management. I can't speak to that.
The reason i came late for a long time was distraction by social media. If someone here can't pull themselves away from social media, i suggest to use focusing apps. Samsung for example includes a modes and routines option within the settings and you can set work mode up to block access to distracting apps during work... or your routine.
Another recommendation is to uninstall distracting social media apps or replace them with federated apps (although the latter may be less effective).