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You have to make your own meaning in life, because nobody else is going to do it for you.
Oh there are plenty who would like to do it for you!
Some are sincere, some are downright exploitative.
Your advice is still the best way to go.
And our default state is to have no meaning. So if you feel like you haven't found yours and then you feel lost as a result, there's no need to be.
The endless pursuit of meaning or purpose can actually make you more unhappy.
Meaning comes through relationship. There's no point for a pen to exist if there's nothing to be written. The purpose of the pen is to write. The purpose of humans is to relate
What good is a pen without ink?
Relying on another person for happiness isn't a healthy relationship (either plutonic or romantic). There's a reason that "you have to love yourself before you can love anyone else" is such a common phrase.