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Everyone who's went through a breakup and already got over it, what do you think now about the actual reason for the breakup? (feddit.de)

submitted 10 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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[–] [email protected] 25 points 10 months ago (1 children)

When we met, we were both pretty broken from past experiences. She had had a line of bad relationships and I had my own issues. She was creative, smart and very beautiful, way out of my league.

With her I was happy for the first time in my adult life and I loved her just as she was. We enjoyed the same things and our friends talked of us as a "perfect couple". And for a time everything truly was pretty perfect.

Then one day she called me and said: "I'm sorry. I can't do this anymore."

After the initial shock I managed to say: "I love you and want you to be happy. If this makes you happy, so be it."

And that was it. I was emotionally devastated.

I never saw her again. Nine months later a common friend told me she had a baby coming in the next month. Apparently she had switched me for a better candidate and gotten herself pregnant almost instantly.

Realizing this broke me even more. I guess our time together had fixed her to a point where she was ready to start a family, just not with me. According to my friend she got three kids with the same guy and is very happy with her life.

It took me years to recover from this and I don't think that I'll ever really get "over it".

[–] [email protected] 6 points 10 months ago

I'm not sure I'd call that fixed, for the record.