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What does the fear of being judged by others hold you back from doing that you would otherwise do? (sopuli.xyz)

submitted 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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To be fair I still do these things but only when I'm alone.

Personally I love finding big puddles and then dig drains with a stick or my heel and watch the water flow.

Also love to throw a piece of wood into water and then toss stones high up in the air and try hit it imagining it's a warship I'm trying to bomb.

Then also without going into details there are some pieces of clothing I would like to wear but don't because they're considered femine or gay.

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 10 months ago (2 children)

I’ve been talking with someone to try and figure this out as well. One thing pointed out often is that judgement will happen no matter what, but judgement isn’t always negative, we just tend to frame it that way. It could be that you wear that clothing you like and people make the judgement that you have good style and seem like a cool person.

When I think back and am honest with myself, when I’ve gone out on a limb and did something different, it has almost always been judge positively. And if somebody judged in negatively, fuck em, they’re probably a miserable and projecting.

Of course all of this is easy to say, but hard to integrate (at least for me).

[–] [email protected] 1 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

I also think that some people judge you negatively/mock you, so they can feel better about themselves. Literally belittle others so you feel superior

[–] [email protected] 0 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

And if somebody judged in negatively, fuck em, they’re probably a miserable and projecting.

Now that's a harsh judgment.