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What does the fear of being judged by others hold you back from doing that you would otherwise do? (sopuli.xyz)

submitted 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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To be fair I still do these things but only when I'm alone.

Personally I love finding big puddles and then dig drains with a stick or my heel and watch the water flow.

Also love to throw a piece of wood into water and then toss stones high up in the air and try hit it imagining it's a warship I'm trying to bomb.

Then also without going into details there are some pieces of clothing I would like to wear but don't because they're considered femine or gay.

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)

Pretty much that last paragraph of yours.

I don't care if people see me as childish, weird, or even dumb. I do lots of things that make me seem all of those things.

But that makes me hesitate for some reason.

I did open up about it to some friends I was sure wouldn't judge, and it helped a lot.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 10 months ago (1 children)

May i ask what kind of clothes you mean?

[–] [email protected] 4 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (2 children)

Skirts, dresses, thigh highs, crop tops, and just generally the womens section of the clothing store. So many items there that are a lot more interesting than what the mens section has to offer.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Never thought of that before, but you're right. Way bigger variety of stuff

[–] [email protected] 3 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Right? Women have like twenty different types of tops in all the shapes and cuts imaginable

[–] [email protected] 2 points 10 months ago (1 children)

And colours! So many colours.

The material's always nicer too.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 10 months ago

Seriously, if I wear one more sandpaper hoodie, I'm gonna cry

[–] [email protected] 2 points 10 months ago (1 children)

That reminds me of men's haircuts. If you're sticking to traditional short hair you basically just walk in and go... Okay, how much longer do I want the top than the sides and do I want a fade or a hard line? And that's pretty much it.

Going for longer hair as a guy just gives you so many more options.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)

I'm so annoyed by hair... I want to let mine grow so bad, but pollen/dustmite allergies and long hair is an awful combination

[–] [email protected] 2 points 10 months ago (1 children)

It's definitely got a lot of caveats. For me, it is annoying to need to put my hair up every time I eat, otherwise I eat my hair. But I love the way it feels moving around and if you have any social anxiety it conceals your face when you look down, which can be helpful as an instant hideaway.

But yes, it is definitely many times less manageable than short hair. However... I don't have bedhead ever!

[–] [email protected] 2 points 10 months ago

Feeling my hair in the wind was definitely the best thing about my short-lived long hair adventure, gotta say