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What does the fear of being judged by others hold you back from doing that you would otherwise do? (sopuli.xyz)

submitted 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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To be fair I still do these things but only when I'm alone.

Personally I love finding big puddles and then dig drains with a stick or my heel and watch the water flow.

Also love to throw a piece of wood into water and then toss stones high up in the air and try hit it imagining it's a warship I'm trying to bomb.

Then also without going into details there are some pieces of clothing I would like to wear but don't because they're considered femine or gay.

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 10 months ago (4 children)

Wear a fanny pack/carry a non-backpack bag as a man.

It's so convenient to have a bag full of stuff on you. Like I'm out and have a headache, boom Aspirin. At dinner and got some food in your teeth, bam flosser. It's very satisfying when a situation comes up and you have the exact thing to solve a problem right there in your bag. But a backpack is too big and bulky and anything smaller becomes a purse and this looks down upon for a man to carry.

I only get the courage to wear it when on a trip where I can overly justify it. Like hiking, or a theme park or convention. I feel like if it was an everyday thing I'd have to explain it or hear about it more than I'd want to.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 10 months ago

If you can pull it off, even a dress can be manly

[–] [email protected] 2 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

I honestly never realized how much of af my stepdad did not give until much later. As a diabetic he would wear a fanny pack with his insulin, needless, and extra sugar drop candy in case his sugars dropped. This was before pumps were a thing. He would also wear bike shorts, slip on shoes with socks, a regular white t-shirt and a flannel as an outfit with the fanny pack. Oh and also transition lenses. The thing about the bike shorts is that his legs look like an eldritch horror because diabetics don't heal very quickly when they get a scrape or cut. He also kind of looks like Dale from King of the hill.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 10 months ago

I see more and more men wearing fanny-pack-like crossbody bags where I am (Holland). Hopefully it will start catching on in your area!

[–] [email protected] 1 points 10 months ago

Get a cross body sling, One of those travel digital nomad things. The brand ones aren't cheap but it's like somewhat fashionable. Maybe that could work?