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There is about 8.1 billion people in the world. Assuming romantic cliches to be true and that we all have exactly one soulmate out there, we would have a very hard time sifting them out. If you were to use exactly one second at meeting a person it would take you 257 years to meet everyone alive on earth at this moment, which due to human life span being significantly shorter and the influx of new people makes the task essentially impossible without a spoonful of luck. Moral of the story: If you believe you have found your soul mate, be extra kind to them today.
Soul mates are made, not found. You get with someone compatible to you, and through the sharing of experiences and affection, if nothing goes excessively wrong, they become unique for you.
That catch is, you need to find that someone in the first place, and that takes a bit of looking around. So in effect, soul mates are found.
It gets much easier once you factor in that you, yourself, aren't static and constant. The task isn't to find someone capable of becoming perfect for you, it's finding someone whose compatibility and willingness when taken into account with your own offers a fair chance to grow into a symbiotic relationship.