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Yeah, we really don't notice all the bullshit our parents deal with when we're kids.
I've got a kid who is nearly out of school. There's a real sense that his idea of the future is eternal summer vacation at his parents' house earning just enough money to hang out with friends. It's a struggle to decide how to deter that pattern of behavior. As parents we want to be able to do anything for our kids, but we also need to do what's best for them, not just what they want.
The kid is going to learn a lot about what we do to keep the house in reasonable order and stocked for life. We've been trying to teach that as we go, but it doesn't always seem to sink in.
But also like your economy was golden compared to the current, at even fairly reasonable housing prices its still gonna be far out of most budgets for the foreseeable feature.
How bout you try and be a good parent and give your kid their best life regardless of things out of their control?
I'm well aware of how hard it is to get to anything resembling a healthy independent living situation in the US these days. It's completely stacked against everyone not already in wealthy starting positions. We have other kids working to build more than a hardscrabble financial situation and we're more than happy to help as we can.
We'll help this kid too. What I'm not interested in doing is providing them a roof, food, clothes, doing their dishes, and paying for their hobbies for the rest of my life. This is an intelligent, capable, and healthy young man. The issue is the attitude we're seeing that he doesn't seem to see what it takes to be an independent adult, even if he's still relying on some help while he builds up the resources to get by in this incredibly shitty society we've allowed to accrete over generations.
Yes, the economy was way better when I was a young adult. I also had some fortunate happenings (bought a house in a stable local market going into the 2008 banks fraud crash) and unfortunate ones (graduated college right into the Dot Com Bubble burst. 3 months of work, then layoffs into years of dead job markets, yay!). I am extremely scared for my childrens' futures because of how anti-humanist the US has become. Letting this kid in question fuck around for a few years while I take care of everything for him and hope my next heart attack (that's one of the unfortunate issues) doesn't kill me before he figures out how to be an independent and self sufficient adult isn't something that I feel will serve either one of us in a positive way.