Don't ever quit.
Screw that. Quitting is healthy, quitting is good. Nothing worse than digging yourself deeper and deeper based on sunk cost fallacy.
this post was submitted on 14 Jul 2023
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Absolutely! Strategic quitting is an option that people donβt use enough. Definitely improved my quality of life!
They told me to not quit. So I'm still a crack addict.
as everything this has contexts in which is valuable and contests in which it's not
don't quit because you're demoralised. don't quit because you're tired. don't quit because it's hard.
if your first natural response to adversities is flying instead of fighting, it's telling you to fight, because you are likely the only person losing when flying.
it's not about never change your mind. never critically think what's the situation and if it's still worth it.
or check up with yourself and see if that's still what you want.
after all leaving a situation you don't want anymore, it's not quitting, it's moving on
it seems just semantics, it's about knowing yourself and being honest with yourself.
nothing is black or white
"There are people worse off than you"
Thanks, that totally solves my problem.
My dad threw a party to celebrate when I graduated university with a degree in Computer Science.
At the party, my dad's friend took me aside and said "My nephew just got a degree in electrical engineering. Now that's an up and coming field, you should get a degree in that."
Like, alright buddy. Hopefully that career pays well enough for another four years of student debt. I'm still kinda in shock at how dumb of a thing to say that was.
Ah yes the brand new exciting world of electricity. Rumor on the street is they've got this fancy new device called a tellyfone that uses this electricity. You can talk to anyone in the world!
"Just be happy" to a depressed person
Oh wow, jeez, thanks, why didn't I think of that earlier!
Ah yes, the good ol' "Just get over it" technique that is supposed to work for any mental health condition.
Similar to this: telling someone with ADHD "stop letting yourself get distracted"
Or to someone with anxiety:
"Just don't be anxious!"
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"But it's not actually scary!"
Yes, I know, that's why it's a disorder and not just being a reasonable person who's afraid of frightening things!
I was a new dog owner, went to /r/Dogs to ask about a particular behavior my dog was exhibiting I'd never seen or read about before (turned out to be normal tho) and every reply I got basically told me I don't know how to care for an animal and that I should give him to someone else.
It was then I realized that it wasn't just /r/RelationshipAdvice that was full of bitter, jealous losers whose advice is always "dump them." It applied to literally every single subreddit dedicated to advice. They may have started with good intentions and knowledgeable people, but over time filled up with people who had no business giving anyone advice.
Someone told me that if I wanted to be a history teacher I should get a degree in special Ed to "make myself more marketable." It took 14 years to get out of special education and land a job teaching history
14 years is a long time. Hope you're having a better time now.
Teaching as a profession sucks ass in general right now... but at least a lot of the special educator-specific bullshit is not my problem anymore. But thank you.
"sleep when the baby sleeps"
Yeah because there's absolutely nothing that needs to be done once I finally get my daughter down. No washing and sterilising, for prep for us or for her, general chores around the house which you can never do effectively one handed. And fuck me if I wanted to try and relax and have an actual evening after they're down too.
"Sleeping like a baby" had also never seemed like such a juxtaposition!
Also, like, adult humans don't do so good if they only get to sleep for an hour or two at a time. I don't have kids but I have a puppy and my mental health improved 10x when he stopped waking up every night because he needed to pee. Just going from two 4-hour blocks of sleep to one 8-hour block.
Then he hit puppy adolescence and had a massive sleep regression and I was getting an hour or two of sleep at a time between SCREAMING PUPPY INTERLUDES and promptly lost my fucking mind. I gave up on crating him because I needed the sleep.
Here's some more unhelpful advice: Hang in there, it gets easier! (for real though)