Banana

No, learning to love yourself first is not a prerequisite for finding love or happiness. But it sure makes it a hell of a lot easier to know what's best for you.

Do consider therapy if you have a way of procuring it, I know it's expensive, or the next best thing in my opinion is to go and grab a notebook from the dollar store and just start writing your thoughts down. It's going back and reading those thoughts that really helps with self actualization and reflection, imo.

I wish you luck, OP, you deserve happiness and I believe you can find it, but you have to be patient with yourself and other people. Becoming vulnerable to others, although risky, really helps expedite the process.

Reminds me of a line from Festival Song by Jeff Rosenstock:

"We're not stupid people, but this financial depression
Has got everyone believing all that we can do is nothing
'Cause we organize through avenues they lace with advertisements
So the ones we try to rage against are still lining their pockets"

Yeah pretty much exactly what I was thinking about. I like being able to curate and have some legitimate control over what I'm seeing

Fair enough, but I'd say the other commenters have articulated what I meant pretty well

Oh wow that's interesting, I haven't noticed any myself. I did uncheck bot accounts on the Voyageur app and I don't know how much that does

Honestly that seems like most of social media at the moment and I know I've mentioned the algorithm in every comment I made in this thread, but it really makes it suck.

Because that particular algorithm and its use is very capitalist, its purpose is to drive engagement for money with morality not even being considered, and the best way to do that is to make everyone angry. CGP Grey on YouTube has a good video on it I can link in an edit in a bit, but the gyst of it is that the algorithm shows us what makes us angry, we make other people angry, thus, a neverending cycle of people being addicted to getting pissed off.

Edit: link

This is exactly how I feel

Idk it got worse when all the porn subs started dying

rip

Lemmy absolutely.

• no algorithm
• no ads
• actual real people in the comments
• the ability for third parties to make apps
• the fact that it's not mainstream means most of the people on here are at least a little nerdy which I am here for.
• feels a lot like what reddit used to be 15 years ago before the age of algorithms and bots everywhere.

I'm crushed :C

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