There are plenty of women who live like this now. It's a cultural thing, not a timeline thing. I had a roommate in college who would wake up before dawn to do her makeup so nobody would see her without it.
(Also high society women certainly didn't make their own breakfasts... well, ever, but especially not hundreds of years ago)
I've had good results managing it by planning my week very loosely: I write down 1-3 things I plan to do each day (including work, exercise, cleaning, leisure, seeing friends, appointments) and it's just enough structure to keep me moving without being stifling.
My favorite thing about this meme is that whenever it gets posted we get to hear these stories. I'm glad it got better for you!
Sooo much more. The Baroque Cycle is like Cryptonomicon squared.
Pretty much Jack Shaftoe's storyline in Neal Stephenson's Baroque Cycle
My brother and his wife would give their kids a "special treat" at bedtime: warm milk with protein powder. Worked great.
Patriarchy oppresses us all.