There is no should or shouldn't, they've always had and been entitled to that choice. People who develop and host those platforms can make whatever choice they want.
ActivityPub/the Fediverse is only a protocol. If you philosophically disagree with how a platform makes use of that protocol, then you can (theoretically) just use another platform.
Yup! If the software supports it, instance admins can usually add relays from their control panel.
It does work that way, but Mastodon and some other microblogging software like Firefish (fka Calckey), Pleroma, etc. can also use relays to populate their federated timelines.
Respectfully, how on earth did this design get cleared? 😭
Cloaks are really a cool idea and I miss them, not that I was ever alive for them being en vogue haha
A great look despite the obvious hazard of them getting caught on things
finally getting more time off from work versus the 60-70 hour weeks i was pulling before, so i started participating in a game jam and trying to have a presence on fedi again.