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Please don't deadname trans people, folks can figure out from context if you just say "Emily from LTT came out as trans".
I can't expect everyone to know who that is. Especially here where people tend to avoid Twitter which was their platform of choice to reveal to the wider internet. And Emily hasn't been on any LTT videos since transitioning, so I don't exactly know how people would get context without what I said.
I don't mean to stir up anything, this is entirely respectful (remove this if it isn't, no worries), but it is useful for someone who knew who someone named "Anthony" was, despite the fact that they don't exist anymore. I guess it doesn't matter, but I immediately was able to understand who they were talking about since I didn't know she had transitioned. Is there a better way to approach providing this context?
There's a million different ways, most trans people don't immediately change their last name so you can use that. Or you can refer to something that Emily did to provide context. I'm sure if you stop and think about it, you can figure out a few more ways too.
At the end of the day it's not about making it easier for you to understand what's going on at the expense of disrespecting her. She's asking for you to use her name, so stop calling her something else.
Thanks, I appreciate this clarification and the different perspective is helpful. I can see why I should prioritize her well-being over my ease-of-reference. I'll be sure to avoid this in the future