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Yeah this has Bigger Problems written all over it. While it is useful to have a technical answer to this immediate problem, a method to barricading the door would at best be a delaying tactic. The actual problem will still exist, and there very likely will be retaliation like the mom completely removing the door.
I mean, OP is a literal child....
So on one hand it makes sense they'd think this would be a valid strategy "for a few months", but it also means there's a non-zero chance their parents are actually in the right and OP wants to stay in their room 24/7 watching streamers.
Regardless of who's at fault, CPS is a much better resource than strangers on social media.
I mean, there is a problem somewhere if the parents feel the need to basically break into their child's room. Either they don't have an ounce of respect for their child's privacy or the child is doing something worrying that truly warrants their parents being so paranoid about it.
Either way, yeah, we aren't really a good resource. There's a much bigger problem here.
Read the post again:
It sounds like the mom knocks and/or asks OP a question and OP is just ignoring her until she opens the door.
Then tries to hide?
Like, they're acting like it's Jurassic Park and their mom is a T Rex...
A good parent would check on a kid that's not responding and spending an inordinate amount of time in their room. They wouldn't just let them hide in their 24/7
A good parent does NOT break down a door ffs. The kid isn't dead, he's hiding from someone who should make him feel safe. If it was a good parent, he should be able to make his own choices (to an extent) and shouldn't feel the need to barricade the door from them
No one says she has....
Are you also 14? Because I just can't picture a grown adult not getting this.
OP is blaming Mom’s “narcissistic tendencies” and everyone instantly takes that side. But OP says the uncle helped her figure out how to open the door. So clearly the uncle is a part of this unjust conspiracy as well. The more reasonable conclusion is that the adults in OPs life might have good reason to be accessing their room.
The actual reasonable conclusion is not to jump to conclusions at all.
I couldnt agree more. There is clearly room for concern.