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Ways to (temporarily) safeguard your room? (reddthat.com)

submitted 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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A week ago, my mom figured out how to get through my bedroom door lock: using a screwdriver. I've heard her on a phone call with my uncle, and he showed her the trick. Whenever I don't respond or give in, she could just insert the screwdriver through my lock, and bam, she can come in whenever she wants to.

I've searched online for getting around this, and I've decided on:

Getting a lock. (or something that (b)locks the door)
- Using a portable lock. (Addalock, any others)
- Using a doorstop.
- Make your own lock. (like using a fork)

But then I thought that my mom would still enter using the screwdriver. The handle's loose, so she knows she's able to barge in. I could be wrong, though.

My door jamb has a dent, so she has a peephole to look in and might figure out why the door wouldn't open.

Should I be able to get a lock? If not, are there any alternatives or other solutions?

Edit: Wanted to make a quick edit. My mom shows narcissistic traits, and would barge in the room for her own entertainment. I've tried asking her to leave a few times, ~~even discussing about it with her,~~ but she isn't seeming interested to understand or listen. I would stay as far from her in my room in order to not attract her.

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[–] [email protected] 263 points 11 months ago (17 children)

If you are in a situation where needing to barricade your door to prevent your parent's entry is a regular occurrence, it is probably time to involve child protective services. You don't need to give details of your situation to strangers on the internet, but I would highly encourage you to go to a trusted friend or family member's home and contact the authorities.

[–] [email protected] 32 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (3 children)

Hey, sorry, in a perfect world that would be the answer but in most places no, CPS will not be a good idea. At best they can remove you from that situation at which point you enter the very, very under-funded foster care system. This means a loss of friends and family perhaps changing schools alot of the time not enough food to eat some nights, or proper clothes, education, protection, etc.

On top of this, often those in charge of these places are quite terrible people too. Abusive mentally, sexually, or physically.

At worse, and more commonly, they do nothing and the abuse gets worse.

I really wouldn't suggest this option so willingly unless you knew the local system or the abuse was much worse than the, admitadly very concerning and not something this kid should have to deal with, current description.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I don't know much about CPS, but now that I think about it, it's not really ideal for my situation.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 11 months ago

I don't know your situation. Though I'd caution you about contacting them without knowing your local CPS and their track record, I hope if it is or becomes untenable that'll be an option.

I wish the best for you. I know quite a few people who've had terrible experiances with their parents, I hope like them things can get better for you with time

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