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(Ladies of Kbin/Lemmy/etc!) Does a woman generally have as strong of an urge to get an orgasm compared to a man's urge to get ejaculation? (kbin.social)

submitted 2 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I believe that if a man and a woman get together and both sides get turned on, the man is more likely to be more desperate to get off.

Is it common among women though?

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago (3 children)

Follow up question for ladies: how do you more usually / prefer to get off: 1) by just "standard" penetration or 2) finger/tongue/others stimulation?

asking for a friend

[–] [email protected] 10 points 2 months ago

Approximately 70% of women cannot get off from penetration alone.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

Most (cis) women I’ve been with have gotten off best/only from clitoral stimulation. Only a few have preferred penetration with no clitoral stimulation. But none that I remember have disliked clitoral stimulation. So I’d say (speaking only from my experience), chances are she’ll like it if you push her button, but really you should just ask. And make her pleasure a priority. (Don’t just ask, but listen too, and ask again if she doesn’t seem into it.)

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 months ago (1 children)

This is another "it depends" thing.

Just ask the person you are with.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago (1 children)

No one asking these questions on the internet are with anyone they are able to ask.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 months ago (1 children)

That’s not true. They might feel uncomfortable asking because they’re inexperienced. Having strangers on the internet assure you that asking is not only normal, but helpful, can really help someone who’s feeling nervous with a new partner.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 months ago

I never said they didnt have a partner. I said they didnt have a partner they could ask. Your example still fits within my comment.