[-] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago

I just wanna say I am sorry that it is near impossible for single dads to adopt kids. I understand the reasoning but want to cry because there are kids who need parents but you can't be the parent to one.

[-] [email protected] 3 points 3 days ago

I had two terrible toddlers, but once they were kids they were cool. Two who I guess will get a midlife crisis, because they never caused trouble as kids or teens. The rest I got when they were teens or older and while not all of them (bio or other) were academic superstars or high performing athletes or anything, they were all reasonable and interesting and diverse people by teenage years.

[-] [email protected] 5 points 3 days ago

I don't remember my mom being motherly, and asked her about it once. She said "I don't like kids." I said"but you have so many kids!" And her reply?

"Well, I like you all now, I knew you would grow up, kids don't stay kids, they grow into people."

Good on you, live your life on your terms!

[-] [email protected] 2 points 3 days ago

Oh my God I would never want to BE a kid again, it was a nightmare. But my kids say they enjoyed it ok, and weren't as uncomfortable as I was. Maybe it skips a generation.

[-] [email protected] 0 points 3 days ago

My mom said once that if everyone waited until their life was perfect to have a kid, that was the end of humanity. There is never a perfect time.

[-] [email protected] 23 points 3 days ago

Kids for me. They have improved my life more than anything else. Having the first two pushed me to go back to school and get a real job. I got more when my ex & I split and I married a guy with kids; we have a staggering number between us, most were teens or older when we got together and they are all close now, so they have a network of family to help and socialize with. The youngest is almost done with high school so we are in the final stretch of having them at home. The Thanksgiving feast here is insane, so many people, chaotic and fun.

Now - having said all that, I always knew I wanted kids, not necessarily to birth them but to raise them. Babies are adorable , little kids blistering cute, teenagers so much fun and occasionally helpful, and then they grow up and are actual people. It is work I find fulfilling and it helps the world to have educated, sensible, open-minded people. Most of my kids don't want kids themselves and that's fine! Everyone has their own life to live.

So for me, kids. For you, whatever you want, I don't think it's essential to become an adult and don't think it's the only way to get a family either.

[-] [email protected] 4 points 4 days ago

Water with electrolytes? I got unflavored electrolyte drops for times I fast, and for my kid who has to do band camp in the summer here. You can get flavored ones too, I don't like them. Dilute them more than the bottle says to, sometimes a splash of lemon.

Topo Chico and orange juice is great, if you are just looking for something that tastes good.

Ask your doctor if it's safe for you to take creatine, that certainly helps muscles retain water.

[-] [email protected] 3 points 5 days ago

I hate ketchup as a sauce or spread, don't mind it as an ingredient but it's way too fucking sweet to put on anything.

Mayonnaise for sandwiches, with mustard or horseradish.

Hot sauce for eggs, beans or French fries (chips) . The salsa yucateca if I want hot without sour, Tabasco if I want sour; hot chili garlic paste if I want flavor bomb.

[-] [email protected] 10 points 5 days ago

I miss the non-porn nudes threads, Normalnudes and NakedProgress, the ones with an "if you can't say something nice, don't say anything" policy where people of all body types could show their shape and/or their fitness progress.

[-] [email protected] 12 points 5 days ago

This hasn't happened for me in the last 35 years, but if I am, say, on vacation? I like to read books, exercise, eat at restaurants.

If you are feeling isolated, it's really good to go get coffee at the same place everyday. We tend to discount the value of weak social connections, but they are the glue that holds humanity together.

[-] [email protected] 2 points 6 days ago

Glad to meet you, Mr. Morningstar and I guess you'd be an authority on this. I agree, consciousness is the universe experiencing itself. And no, I don't need a favor, thanks!

[-] [email protected] 3 points 6 days ago

I am in sports now, we are international but employ consultants for international tax stuff. It's way too complicated. Our internal tax department does do some of the financial planning, yes, tax minimizing schemes as you say, working with the legal department. They also do some general reconciling of the tax liability accounts, sales tax and VAT on merch, that part is accounting but the planning stuff is more like legal work than finance.

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