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If so, does that mean people actually remember a persons name & face after only one encounter?!

If not, why do we pretend they will be upset, and try to hide the fact that we forget an unfamiliar name?

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[-] [email protected] 2 points 3 weeks ago

I was on a third date, and we met an acquaintance of mine. I went to introduce them and blanked. Worse, I went for what I thought I remembered, which ended up close enough to be culturally insensitive. His name was Franz and I said Fritz and he was pretty hurt.

[-] [email protected] 2 points 3 weeks ago

How is that culturally insensitive?

[-] [email protected] 2 points 3 weeks ago

He was Austrian in Germany and those are both very stereotypically Austrian names.

[-] [email protected] 2 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

That just seems petty. They both sound like generic German names to me. There even used to be a Kaiser named Fritz. Just recently I was asking someon "was your name James?" reply: "no, Jason". It was a non-issue

[-] [email protected] 2 points 3 weeks ago

He also had a bit of a chip on his shoulder about it, to be fair.

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