It comes back if you give it time. It takes a while for you to move on from things like that. General rule of thumb is 1 month minimum per year together.
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We were together a year and some change. It’s been 2 months or so since we split.
Nope :)
I refuse to let them have that kind of power over me.
I wish I could be more like you ugh.
Definitely feel free to take a break from certain activities, but don't give them up if you enjoy them. You'll eventually be able to enjoy them on your own again. Just give it time :)
Oh yeah, quite a bit. I lost a huge part of my personality.
Definitely, but it wore off after two or three years. Perhaps longer for some of the songs.
I think the only things I’ve given up because of an ex were things I was only into because they were into them, and not because I was. So not things I loved or enjoyed independently.
I absolutely have experienced it. Honestly, it was a pretty short relationship, but there were certain areas I had trouble being near for months since I associated those places with them so strongly. It does get better, but I think the timeline is different for everyone.
I haven't dated anyone so haven't gone through what you said, but to me this sounds like something you can get over eventually :)
The last person I dated loved facebook, anime, and certain songs…
Funny, back then I didn't even read webtoons or watch anime
Since the pandemic I started reading webtoons, especially bittersweet romance. And there was a webtoon that mentioned similar experiences with my ex
I did for a time experience this after one of my partners and I broke it off. She had spent an inordinate amount of time being abusive and putting me down for practically every little thing, to the point where I had felt ashamed of enjoying certain things when I was with her, so had stopped doing them. It took me about a year after the relationship was over to work through all that trash and realize that my habits were totally fine, but she was not.
I dunno if I would say I enjoyed it, but I was a lot more open about my personal life before my ex-wife.
Not from a romantic relationship, but I’ve had the same feeling for some of the hobbies I used to enjoy after falling out with some friends I knew for a long time. Still don’t do some of things I used to do with that friend group.
I involved the first love of my life in most of the activities I was into at the time.
When it ended I had to make significant life changes, and now, I won't date anyone involved in the things I love the most.
@Vrabielley Not activities per say, but there's still some music I can't listen to. And I found I've stopped telling stories about a big chunk of my life because he hated then. It gets better, even if slowly.