I highly recommend finding a therapist in the normal manner and then confirming that they offer telehealth (I suspect most do), as opposed to BetterHelp and all those types of services. I have a great local therapist but if I'm ever not up to or can't come in, we just hop on a video call. It's good to have the option of going in person, even if you don't think you're there yet.

My roomie wants to try living alone and our lease ends in a couple months. I'm really tired of paying my landlord's mortgage so I'm considering buying a decent looking prefab for 120k. I'm 28 and haven't even bought a car much less a house. But I can't stand renting and burning another 70k. It's ridiculous.

I don't get it either, I don't feel it's difficult to learn. Personally I very much enjoy writing SQL. It's satisfying.

My problem is I've never yet really seen a project through, or contributed to FOSS to experience that, though I really want to. I feel like I'd get overwhelmed, and can't possibly contribute anything of value, and would just get in the way. I know it's not true, there are endless projects of varying complexity, and I could certainly learn an existing codebase if I found the confidence to try.

You deserve both gifts and kindness. I snooped through your profile, are you still in the running for or did you get the job? I also have agoraphobia so I'm super proud of you for going to at least the two rounds :)

I think I'm an decent programmer as measured by these values. Having no real training/education, I often doubt my abilities.

Hope it helps/helped ☺️

Hi there, I've been in that "wouldn't mind if something happened" phase for five years or so, with spurts of active ideation. I have chronic tonic clonic (lmfao) seizures (epilepsy), have chronic depression, I've developed agoraphobia and have been self-isolating similar to you. I've also lost 35lbs the past couple years from an already less-than-healthy weight. Every therapy session is about food and it's exhausting. Every week it's "what got in your way of eating?", "what am I missing?", "How can we make it easier to eat next week?"... (it's good therapy, just frustrating).

I'm a good friend but whenever my friends ask about me I feel like I never have anything but doom and gloom when they're off living l vibrant lives (not without their own struggles of course). So it's hard to feel like it's worth being my friend and like I'm doing them a favor pulling away.

Probably nothing helpful in there, just turned into my own venting... Lol. But if you don't currently see a psychologist or therapist please do look into it.

We don't have r/Random_Acts_of_Pizza but can I get you some food you like tonight if you're in the US?

Just want to point out that it was perhaps your lowest low this week, and you STILL made progress. That's a hell of a showing of strength and resiliency!

Aw fun! I watch the 25th anniversary concert with Alfie Boe (and yes Nick Jonas lol) regularly ☺️

I'm bad at self care but I went to the optometrist last week and... my eyeglass prescription doubled. Did you know road signs have words on them? Huh!