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I hate that evolutionary part of me that cares about having sex/a mate so much that I actually allow myself to become depressed based on the goddamn preferences of one person.
For years the only happiness I’ve found has been by removing myself from the market entirely and just writing off the notion of being with someone, a “with no hope/expectations there is no letdown” kind of thing.
I was carrying on just fine like this until I got a beautiful new coworker a few months ago who laughs at even my worst jokes like it’s going out of style. Alas though I’m sure she likes me I know I’m too old for her so here I am just unusually unhappy in my solitude for the first time in years. Ugh, is it time to get on tinder? I fucking hate the whole enterprise of dating.
How "too old" are we talking here
I’m 84 and she’s 16
Are you sure you’re not a reddit mod?
I cant tell if you’re piling on with my joke or if you’re being the joke police, because my first downvote came right when you commented.
Either way I take offense to the accusation.
Yeah dating someone too young is one thing, but being a Reddit mod is a different thing altogether.
/s before the downvotes.
Lol
Idk if dating is inherently bad, but the soulcrushing drive for profit that has consumed modern dating has defintely made it horrible.
As long as she's a legal adult within 15 or so years of you, she can't be too young IMO. If she likes you, that's her choice. Unless the workplace aspect bothers you, what's the harm?
I dunno, I'm 28. I'd date someone who's 43. Just tossing in my 2 cents.
Just ask her if she knows of any single women your age she can set you up with. If she really likes you, she'll tell them what a great person you are. Or maybe she can give you tips about where to meet someone, how to ask someone out, etc.
Don't despair for having a potentially good friendship, those can be just as valuable as physical relationships.
I agree with others, man. What's the age difference? Because I understand someone being too young (I'm 28 and I'm not sure I could date someone under 24 for example). Just very curious! You never know
Hate to break it to you, but you framing this as in inherent part of yourself does not really help in dealing with it. It is something you can absolutely work on and for the sake of your mental health I hope you will be able to do that.
Why is this MGTOW post getting upvoted?
Because this isn't someone who hates women. This is someone who simply gave up looking for a partner from frustration or depression. Now, they are deciding to change and passively asking for advice. You know, positive personal growth.
Thank you. I didn’t even know what MGTOW meant—I’m guessing this person hate-lurks MGTOW and, accordingly, views everything a man ever says about relationships through a lens of hostility. It’s a real stretch to take anything I said as misogynistic.